Be More Awesome

Oofta. My feels are all engaged. Just watch the video.


I love kid president. If you haven’t caught some of his videos be sure to check out the Soul Pancake YouTube channel here!

Bits that I particularly loved.

“We can all be awful sometimes but we can all also be awesome. It’s time to be more awesome.”

It’s easy to beat ourselves up…we’re easy targets. Why not let all of that go and figure out how to be more awesome?

“History is made by ordinary people. Ordinary people like you…and me…and that guy.”

It’s easy to forget that celebrities, thought leaders, and Abraham Lincoln are all real people just like us. You can make history, you just have to decide you want to.

“Life is school and ya gotta show up.”

Step one is show up. Figure out where you need to be and go to there.

“They also see the person that we can all become someday.”

You gotta have someone in your life who can tell you how awesome you are. Teachers, coaches, partners, friends or even your dog because for whatever stupid reason we all keep trying to convince ourselves otherwise. You’re awesome. We see it. Tag, you’re it.

So ask yourself today…

What are you teaching the world?


How do I do it All? – Superhero Syndrome

ironmanI recently read the book Virtual Freedom by author and entrepreneur Chris Ducker. The book focuses on learning how to work with virtual assistants which is something I’ve recently begun doing. If you haven’t investigated it as an option for you in your personal and business life, it is definitely worth looking into. (There will be a post here about it soon so keep an eye out and the service I’m using is called and you can check out my testimonial about them in the resource page!)

In the book he coins the phrase “Superhero Syndrome” which basically encompasses our (often times ridiculous) desire to do it all ourselves.   Somewhere along the way we’ve picked up this idea that by getting support or (even worse) asking for help is a sign of weakness or an admission that we’re not good enough to do the job on our own. While I do love the independent spirit it’s restrictive thinking like this that often keeps us from reaching our goals.

Say you need a website but know nothing about coding and even the idea of using one of the template sites like Squarespace or Wix gives you heart palpations. Well you can spent hours ripping your hair out and rending your garments trying to figure it out and end up with a meh website or you can get some help. Hire someone who knows what they’re doing to make it for you. It’s still YOUR website. Find an intern who has design experience and make that one of their projects. Get your nephew who’s better at computers than you to do it for the cost of a trip to Disneyland (AND YOU GET TO GO TOO).

A somewhat more charged example of Superhero Syndrome is being unable to ask for or receive emotional support. Some of us may be wizards at getting tech support, administrate support or support hosiery (is that a thing still? Do spanx count?) but when it comes to going for emotional support we just don’t know how to ask. It’s easy to feel like a total screw up when you’re talking about something as personal as your thoughts and feelings.   The old saying of “it takes a village” applies even after the child has grown up.

Humans are hardwired for connection and we crave the feeling of safety, belonging/love and self-esteem/mattering. If we’ve got some underlying emotional issue that is keeping us from feeling any of those 3, we’re not going to be able to perform at our best.   People claim to be on the hunt for their peak performance. They devour lists of productivity tips and tricks while working with tomato timers and site blockers to keep them on the path to being a personal powerhouse. It’s a sexy image too right. The self-made man. The executive mom who kicks ass in the boardroom, the bedroom and the babies room. We all have these ideas of these super human people (who we must be unlucky enough to not know any personally) who don’t need anyone else. They do it all on their own and they do it effortlessly.

If you could pull back the curtain a la Wizard of Oz style you’d probably hear something like “Pay no attention to the army of men behind the curtain!” No man is an island…well at least not successful and emotionally balanced ones.   It can be extremely difficult and confronting to ask for help or find support. It seems a bit silly as we all crave the feeling (“I wish I could just let someone else handle it for a couple of days.”) but we talk ourselves out of it.   “I’m just too busy.” “How would they get along without me?” “No one else knows how to do this right.” “I could never afford someone to help with this.” “What if I did all this work and then someone else gets the credit?” “I wouldn’t even know what to do with free time!”   Time to get rid of your excuses and drop this superhero syndrome.

Start practicing letting go of non-mission critical tasks. Delegate if you have a team at work. Sure you could do it better (you’re just so smart!) but can they do it well enough?   Hire a maid to help you handle things at the house so you can spend that extra time recharging. That mental recharge may be just what you need to end up with that big fat raise which suddenly makes a maid (and a virtual assistant, and a therapist and a personal trainer and a coach and an intern) accessible to you 10 times over.   Find a therapist who can help you work through your past emotional issues so you aren’t constantly dragging that all over with you. It’s exhausting.   Hire a coach to help keep you accountable to your goals and really start moving towards the life and career you want. You may feel like you should do it on your own, but how has that been working out so far?

Support is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of being a bad-ass. Go get the support you need. Make it happen.

Spanx, Strother

Get off your ass and do it

Here we are in the inaugural blog post. The trumpets sound only for me because as of yet, I have no subscribers. My page is barely up and I have a list of corrections and edits already that suddenly appeared when my site went from “under construction” to live. I can pretty much guarantee that when this post is published not a single person will see it for quite some time.

Which is why I’ve put it off till now.

“Write the first blog post” has been on my to do list for weeks now but somehow something else always came up. I had to do some networking or write more content or those dishes weren’t gonna wash themselves. I had hyped up this first blog post to be the end all be all of my writing career.

What if it doesn’t resonate with my readers and clients? What if it actually had a reverse effect and made someone decide NOT to hire me? What’s the perfect topic for a first blog post? How should I do it?

I asked for advice. I polled clients. I read other blogs. I asked colleagues for ideas. I wrote the first 2-5 sentences of about ten different “FIRST BLOG POSTS” before I landed here. A random weekday night when I decided “screw it I’m gonna write the damn thing.”

That’s often the first step though in getting through a huge project or moving towards a goal. Something is keeping us back (it’s too hard, it’s too important, I don’t know how yet) and we let it sit and get stagnant for fear we’ll do it wrong.

The thing I’ve learned though is there is no “right” way to write a first blog post (or approach a project or find new clients or create something). You just have to do it. If it sucks – so be it. You learned how not to write a first blog post. If it’s fantastic – great you’re developing your voice. You’re building your value. You’re producing work. You’re able to get feedback. You’re developing a writing muscle. Most importantly you’re moving towards your goals.

What project(s) are you avoiding right now? What are you getting out of avoiding them? What would your life look like if you just got them done? I’m not saying it’ll be easy (it might be, this post just flowed right outta my fingers), I’m saying it’ll be worth it.

Just do the damn thing. Not doing the damn thing is so much harder than just doing the damn thing.

Blog Post 1 – Complete.